I wanted to talk about becoming a more sexual creature right before Valentine’s Day with all the love, sales, and coupon codes like free shipping floating out on the web. Women need to treat sex a little more like a man and what better way to do that then to focus on becoming a more sexual creature daily. Men are constantly thinking about it and almost never turn it down. Why would they, it’s another way that their sexy and amazing wife is reinforcing to them that they love them and they want them. It’s a huge confidence boost. But it is also easier for them to be always in the mood when they are building it as part of their life.

Women should use this technique as well. It doesn’t have to mean doing things their way, but tailoring your day so that you are putting your best effort into being a more sexual creature in and out of the bedroom does make a difference regardless if you want to increase the number of encounters you have or just have more satisfying sex. One big area is taking better care of yourself so that your confidence is higher. It’s really hard to feel sexy when you feel and maybe look like a hot mess.  Your spouse will appreciate the effort as well as you. You can try listening or reading steamy romance novels in bed before going to sleep or using that time to talk about something that inspired you. You can upgrade your lingerie draw so that you ONLY have sexy things year round. A cute bra and cute panties are always appreciated when you have an opportunity for spontaneous sex.  Yes, this means getting rid of any of the granny panties and other ugly undergarments and sleep ware. This doesn’t mean going away from a favorite style or cut. But it just means adding a bit more lacy and frilly things to your draw.  Trust me, if Victoria Secrets can make granny panties look sexy there is no excuse to not have cute things. This also goes for sleep ware. Again, you can’t look sexy and inspire some bedroom activities when you are in your oversized and stained sleepwear.  Take the time to go and get cute and sexy flannel pjs or a soft baby doll or “man’s” night gown to sleep in. This can be accommodated on all budgets. So please don’t think that because you can’t afford to go to Victoria Secretes and redo your wardrobe that it’s impossible. There are plenty of discount stores like Ross, Marshals and Kohl’s that sell the same style for a lot cheaper. The next thing to do when you get home with all your updated goodies is to go home and throw anything out that doesn’t support the new and improved you. This means any sleepwear and undergarments that don’t make you feel like a Victoria Secrets model need to go.  Yes this also means any cast off shirts that don’t fit your husband anymore and need to be donated. It will never help you to become more of a sexual creature if you have access to old crappy undies and pjs. This month is also the perfect time to introduced new adventures into the boudoir. There are a ton of discount codes and special offers from all different types of adult stores because of Valentine’s Day. As a smart shopper and a passionate wife it is the best time to buy something new and try it out.  I would encourage that you order something new and have it shipped to your door as part of the valentine’s gift you give your spouse. Even if your household is on a budget, there are still ways to add even more fun and romance to the bedroom.  When in doubt, put on the new cute undies and bra and wrap yourself in a bow. It’s a cheap way to make the effort for both of you and still give a present on Valentine’s Day that you both can enjoy.